Loud ‘n Proud Week 3: Leaving Mummy’s Comfort Zone

Welcome to week 3 of Loud ‘n Proud! If you are new to this linky, you can read more details here. I look forward to reading about all the amazing things your wonderful children have done recently – and perhaps some of your own achievements as well. Feel free to be proud of yourself! You can link up your posts below, and don’t forget to grab our badge.

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Personally, I find it easy to brag about my children’s academic achievements (erm, I do realise they are only 3 and 1 1/2 years old), and to wax lyrical about their linguistic prowess, but something you will rarely hear me mention is their physical abilities. I’ll level with you: I am not into sports and I hate playing outside. Well – I like playing outside, but not if it involves too much supervision, mess, potential for injuries or physical exertion on my part.

So, I guess, I hate playing outside.

As a mum, I am great at encouraging music, art, reading books, imaginative play, but ask me to go and teach my son to ride a bike and I’ll suddenly be very busy with Important Jobs in the house, or you’ll find me asleep on the sofa with Team Umizoomi on repeat.

It took me 6 months of being nagged, prodded and reminded to sign my son up to Tots Tennis at our local tennis club. It was cheap, it was short, it was run by someone we know and trust, yet every week there was something. He didn’t have the right shoes. Or I had work. Or I didn’t know what I’d do with the Girl while we were there. Or I’d just forget.

Then just before half term, we went to the grand opening of a local community centre, and the Tots Tennis stand was there, complete with tiny rackets and soft balls. The entire time we were there, both the Boy and the Girl were running after the balls, waving rackets around and generally having a marvellous time. Before I could stop myself, I found myself saying to the Boy: “Would you like to have tennis lessons?”

“Yes!” he said breathlessly. “I have tennis lessons!” His voice went up to a squeak at the end, that’s how excited he was.

So I signed him up.

We bought him Special Tennis Shoes in Primark. He carried them home as gently as if they were made of porcelain, and kept showing them to everyone, telling anyone who would listen that he was going to have tennis lessons.

He has had three lessons so far and he loves it. In fact, he is quite good at it. He follows instructions quite well and does an impressive job of hitting the ball. I keep bracing myself for failure, or at least mediocrity, as this is all I have ever known in sports myself. But why should The Boy fail or be mediocre? Why should I set the bar so low for him? Why shouldn’t he have a talent for sports? Not just The Boy, but The Girl too. The first lesson I brought books for her to read along the side line, but it soon became clear that that was not going to happen. Within seconds she had appointed herself ball girl, and now every week, she invents her own little tennis lesson while the bigger children have theirs.

I am starting to entertain the idea that my kids actually really love being active and being outdoors. And as I watch the two of them running around on the tennis court, rosy cheeked and laughing, I think that maybe I could get used to it myself…

Tiny ball girl

Tiny ball girl


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14 responses

    • Haha wonderful! I saw your post about Z’s football and thought that was quite a coincidence that we had both written about sports this week (especially since I never write about sports….)

  1. Well done to the kids – and well done to you for leaving your comfort zone! Much as I encourage my kids to work hard on their school work and to read, I’m the opposite to you. I’ve never enjoyed craft and imaginative play (that’s what they went to nursery for, right?) and only enjoyed playing outside with them. No wonder I spend all of my weekends on the touchline now!

    • Oh you are more than welcome to come and take my kids out cycling or swimming and I’ll come and build a rocket out of cardboard boxes and fly to Jupiter with yours!

  2. It is surprising when kids show an aptitude for something the parents have no interest in. Both mine play instruments and my boy writes music…I can only sing and Hubby can only listen. I’m glad they’re enjoying it, nothing worse than paying for something then they get fed up. Here’s to Wimbledon 2025!

  3. It’s interesting isn’t it, how we kind of inadvertently push our children towards the things that we like and enjoy doing. Well done for embracing something new. You might have the next Tim Henman on your hands and not know it!

  4. ah that is brilliant – i love how you describe the tennis shoes being carried home – i can just picture it! It is great when our kids have talents that we don’t have – in our family it is music and maths with J (which I’m rubbish at) and cookery with D (which again i’m naturally useless at but have had to learn fast to help him!). Hope they continue to enjoy tennis. x

  5. I have a tendency to do the same, I love the crafts and the baking, but I’m not very sporty (although I do run, but they’re a bit young for that!). Having said that, I love being outside with them and we do a lot of walking and playing in the garden. It’s lovely to see them doing well at something isn’t it, even more so when it’s slightly unexpected 🙂 Who knows, maybe you have the next Andy Murray on your hands! Thanks for hosting x

  6. I totally understand where you’re coming from – I was always pretty useless at any sport so I (wrongly) assume that my kids will be too. L is an incredible climber, with no fear, and is very athletic and gymnastic, despite not being great at ball sports or running. I suppose we remember our own childhood failings and assume our kids will be the same. So pleased your son is enjoying his tennis lessons 🙂

    • It takes a bit of effort to make yourself give them those opportunities, doesn’t it? I’d much prefer sitting at home drawing to standing on a rainy pitch cheering on a team, but I’m sure if my son was in one I’d love supporting him.

  7. Why is it that everything in miniature is so sweet?! Like you, sport and the like has never been something where I shine or have much of a good time – it would seem the two are related and I need to view myself as being good at something to enjoy it, much of the time anyway. That’s why I think it’s great to give kids as many opportunities as possible, before they have a fear of failure, before any of that even matters and they just take things at face value. And hey, maybe six months ago just wasn’t the right time 😉

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